7 Habits of Highly Successful Couples

The richness of your marriage is in direct proportion to the sacrificial investments you make in your marriage.

 When we talk about habits we are talking about ongoing repetitive behavior.

Couples in good marriages develop and maintain good healthy habits which are intentional.

 

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 Habit #1

Keep pursuing Christlikeness in their personal lives and in their marriage.

To share God’s word together, pray together, laugh together, cry together, and grow together.            Some call this “spiritual intimacy,”  but whatever you call it, it is absolutely necessary if you want a successful marriage.  Both partners need to embrace Paul’s words,  “For to me to live is Christ,”  &  “in honor, prefer one another.”

Habit #2

Focus on Integrity and Character as building blocks of Trust and Confidence.

Answer this personal question,  “Do I trust my partner?”  Do you lie to your partner sometimes? Do you say you are going to show up but don’t?

Lying is intent to deceive and couples do it all them time. Psalm 15 gives us the profile of integrity.

Integrity has to do with moral predictability. It doesn’t mean perfection.  Character has to do with the composite picture of your choices, decisions, and behavior.

Here’s something to let percolate. . . Your partner is either going to “become” you or “put up” with you.

Habit #3

Make choices and decisions that underscore the marriage as the unrivaled priority.

Gen. 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

This “one-fleshness” means a number of things, and one thing it means that no one or thing has access to your marriage like you do! That means your career does not come before your marriage. That means your recreational choices do not come before your marriage relationship.  That means your co-worker does not know the personal or intimate things about your marriage. No wonder the majority of infidelity that takes place in our country takes place with someone at work.

Here’s some questions that you are welcomed to reply to:

  • Are you pursuing Christlikeness in your personal and married life?
  • How would your partner answer this question . . . Is your partner trustworthy?
  • Is your marriage the unrivaled priority in you life after your relationship with God?

We will look at the last 4 next time . . .