Can Someone Steal a blessing God intends for me?

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IMG_7570_1024A client recently asked this question: “Can someone steal a blessing from you that God intended for you to have?”

Short answer: No

First, let’s define the term “blessing.” Webster defines the term this way: “approval that allows or helps you to do something; help and approval from God; something that helps you or brings happiness.” Those of us who claim to a have a spiritual relationship with God don’t typically believe in “luck,” or “fate.”  We believe that God is sovereign (possessing all power and control) over the universe He has created. Therefore, we believe that He bestows many different kinds of “blessings” on those created in His image. Blessings can be spiritual, financial, physical, material, relational, etc., but we believe we receive these “blessings” from the hand of a loving, all-powerful God.

So, with that in mind, can someone steal a blessing God wants and intends to bestow on me?

Let’s take a look at a more complete answer, as there is an Old Testament story that speaks to this subject. The story is about a pair of twin brothers, Esau and Jacob, sons of Isaac. Their story is found in Genesis beginning in chapter 25 and goes like this: Isaac was 60 years old when he had Esau and Jacob. Esau was the firstborn, and being born first back in those days meant you received the blessing of the firstborn, which was called the “birthright.” At the death of the father, the firstborn would normally receive a double portion of the estate over his siblings.

In Genesis 25:27-34 we find the story of Esau selling his birthright to his younger brother, Jacob. He sold it for a bowl of stew. So, Jacob did not steal the blessing of the birthright, but rather, Esau, as verse 34 tells us, “despised his birthright” and sold it to Jacob.

Next, the story of Esau and Jacob continues and near the end of their father Isaac’s life he calls Esau in to bestow a blessing upon him. In Genesis 27 we find the story of where Jacob literally deceives his father Isaac and steals the blessing that Isaac was going to bestow on Esau. Jacob dressed up like Esau and deceived Isaac, who, by the way was legally blind at this point, the although he sounded like Jacob, he was in fact the oldest twin, Esau. Isaac placed his hand on Jacob’s head and bestowed the blessing of the firstborn on the youngest.

Now, push the pause button . . . I know what you are thinking . . . See here’s an example of where someone can steal a blessing that God intended for someone else to have. Well, here’s a question for you? Did God intend for Esau to have that blessing? Before the twins were born God told Rebekah who He intended to bestow those blessings on in Genesis 25:23, “The Lord said to her, Two nations are in your womb; And two peoples will be separated from your body; And one people shall be stronger than the other; And the older shall serve the younger.” NASU

You see, God never intended for the firsborn, Esau to receive the blessings normally bestowed to the firstborn. In His sovereignty, God intended for Jacob to receive the blessing even before the twins were even born.

So . . . remember this . . . when God intends to bestow a blessing on you, no person, nor the devil himself can steal what God intends for you to receive.

Ask Dr. Ron — Do I really have to stay in a miserable marriage?

 

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ConsideIMG_7570_1024r this statement, “I’m miserable in my marriage. This can’t be what God wants for me because He would want me to be happy, right?”

First of all, let me say that you are not alone. There are many many married people who are presently “miserable” in their marriage. So, what are your options? Your first option is to do nothing and stay miserable. Second, you can throw in the towel and divorce your spouse. Third, you can take some steps to resolve the feeling of being “miserable.”

For the sake of time and space I want to address the second option of divorce as it is a very popular choice in our society today. You could choose to divorce your partner and thus rid yourself of that “miserable” existence.

Since God created marriage in the first place, let’s consider what He has to say about this option.

How does God feel about divorce?

For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel. . . .”(Mal 2:16) NASU

Then, Jesus in Matthew 19 reiterates His strong feelings about divorce.

Matt 19:3-7 — 3 Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, 5 and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? 6 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” NASU

So, Jesus says the essence of God’s plan for marriage in general is for husbands and wives to stay together, much like the wedding vow . . . “til death do we part.”

For those times, however, when it just doesn’t seem possible to continue the marriage relationship the bible mentions two exceptions that allow for divorce:

The first exception is infidelity, which Jesus mentions, in the same passage. Matt 19:7-9 continues,

7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” 8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” NASU

The second exception is desertion, which is mentioned in Paul’s letter to the Corinthian church.

1 Cor 7:15 Yet if the
unbelieving one (husband or wife) leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.   NASU

One area of great concern in many marriages today is the area of abuse. When one partner is habitually abusing their marriage partner, in essence, the abuser has deserted or abandoned the marriage covenant. There is no verse in the Bible that tells the victim of abuse to stay in an unsafe environment.

The enemy of marriage, Satan, is all about “stealing, killing and destroying” in your marriage. Feeling “miserable” is not biblical cause for divorce, but he would like for you to feel that way. I believe that God can change the miserable feelings partners have in marriage. He wants to replace them with abundant contentment, joy and peace.

Jesus said in John 10:10b, “. . .but I have come to give you life, and give it to you in abundance.”

Why don’t you allow God to change your marriage from a “miserable” one to an “abundant one beginning today?”

Why not take that 3rd option I mentioned above and give us a call?