The #1 family unit in America is the Blended Family. A blended family is one in which partners have children from previous relationships and now they are forming a new family unit. Although blended families experience the same issues experienced by nuclear families, oftentimes the issues become exacerbated within the blended family. Blended families also struggle with additional issues like step parenting, step sibling issues, and co-parenting with ex-partners. To assist in the blending process, we have put together a workbook to address six of the most prominent issues faced by couples in the blending process.
Your Blended Family . . .
Ingredients for a Healthy Blended Family
This is our eight week small group course designed to help couples who are in the blending process whether engaged, recently married, or contemplating putting their family together.
Blended families have all the same problems and challenges as nuclear families, however their issues are often magnified because of the simple fact that more people are involved and affected.
Curriculum Overview — Your Blended Family
8 Week Small Group study
It is imperative to have a solid foundation when building any structure. Within a family structure, the couple relationship is the foundation. The stronger the couple relationship; the more grounded the whole family unit will be. In these two sessions, couples will discover several pieces of baggage often brought into new relationships that need “checking in to” prior to successfully blending the rest of their family.
Step parenting issues are the primary reason blended couples crumble. In this session, three important step parenting steps are explored to assist the blending process. Resources and tools are provided to help with the two biggest hurdles in step parenting, which most experts agree are: discipline and favoritism.
Attention to birth order traits in your new family unit is key to building successful relationships during the blending process. In this session, you will discover the top three hurdles step-siblings encounter: sharing, jealousy and stress, and how it relates to their birth order traits and tendencies.
It is said, “There is a bad apple in every bunch.” When it comes to co-parenting with your ex, sometimes this old saying rings true. In this session, you will receive Scripture-based tools needed to cope with your ex while facilitating the healthy development of your children.
Ingredient 5: Bean Counting : Mine, Yours, Ours — Blended Family Finances
Money-related issues are the number one reason first marriages are driven to divorce. Therefore, the subject of money in second marriages is very sensitive and oftentimes volatile. In this session you will hit the hard questions head-on:
- Should we pool our money or keep it separate?
- Who will be the financial director of our blended family?
- Do I have an obligation to support my stepchildren?
- What about inheritance issues and should I have a will for my blended family?
- How will we reduce debt?
It is no secret that the hustle and bustle of the holiday season is accompanied by stress. This stress is amplified due to strained relationships between ex-spouses and step-siblings. In this session, you will focus on good “ex-etiquette” for holidays and traditions within the blended family. Sound advice is offered for children and adults alike when approaching the holiday season. Couples are encouraged to begin their own traditions with their new blended families while respecting the traditions of the past.
Facilitator’s GuideAlong with the individual workbook, Your Blended Family, we also have available a Facilitator’s Guide which is recommended for the person/couple who will act as the facilitator of each table/group.
Here’s some of what you can find in the Facilitator’s Guide:
Suggested weekly feedback session format
1st Session Orientation Suggestions
Additional suggested questions (not included in workbooks) for every exercise to generate discussion during feedback sessions.